Jan. 7, 2025
Surviving Abuse Through Storytelling: Antoinette Foxworthy on Writing “No More” (Part 1/3) I Ep. 50
How can storytelling empower survivors and educate the world about the realities of domestic violence?
In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Antoinette Foxworthy, who shares her journey from surviving domestic abuse to writing the compelling novel No More. What began as a writing class assignment evolved into a story that illuminates the challenges women face after leaving abusive relationships — including Dr. Anita Stone, an orthopedic surgeon navigating life post-abuse.
Together, we explore the psychological impact of domestic violence, the heightened risks victims face when seeking protection, and the importance of authentic representation in storytelling. Antoinette’s reflections demonstrate how literature can foster empathy, raise awareness, and dispel stereotypes about abuse.
🎧 In this episode:
- Writing as a tool for healing and advocacy
- Psychological effects of domestic violence
- Risks and challenges of leaving abusive relationships
- The importance of authentic survivor representation in fiction
- Using storytelling to educate and inspire
This episode is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, and anyone interested in understanding the nuanced realities of domestic violence through the lens of literature.
Amazon link to purchase "No More": https://a.co/d/cfsgEOy
Antoinette’s bio: https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/antoinette-foxworthy/
1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.
If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
Contact 1 in 3:
- Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
- Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
- Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/
Thank you for listening!
Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe
00:00 - Author's Journey in Domestic Violence Awareness
16:54 - Navigating Domestic Violence Awareness and Realities
22:41 - Empowerment in Domestic Violence Awareness
WEBVTT
00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:25.804
Hi Warriors, welcome to One in Three.
00:00:25.804 --> 00:00:27.167
I'm your host, ingrid.
00:00:27.167 --> 00:00:30.582
Today I'd like to introduce Antoinette Foxworthy.
00:00:30.582 --> 00:00:32.908
She's the author of the book no More.
00:00:32.908 --> 00:00:41.984
What I admire about Antoinette's experience with domestic violence is that she took her personal story and continued to do research into domestic violence.
00:00:41.984 --> 00:00:53.152
She then wrote a fictional story about Dr Anita Stone, an orthopedic surgeon who finds the strength to leave her abusive husband and what happens in the two weeks after she leaves.
00:00:53.152 --> 00:01:02.481
Her hope when writing no More was that it would open up awareness and conversation to this very serious, complicated and convoluted problem.
00:01:02.481 --> 00:01:04.884
Here is Antoinette.
00:01:04.884 --> 00:01:09.311
Hi Well, thank you for having me.
00:01:09.311 --> 00:01:11.314
Thank you so much for coming on.
00:01:11.314 --> 00:01:15.228
I'm very excited about this episode and the next two to follow.
00:01:15.448 --> 00:01:21.046
Well, I thought I'd get right into it about how this book no More got started.
00:01:21.046 --> 00:01:23.131
It was a homework assignment.
00:01:23.131 --> 00:01:31.013
I was in a writing class and the teacher asked us to write about something that changed our lives.
00:01:31.013 --> 00:01:36.552
It had to be three pages long and we had to read it aloud to the class.
00:01:36.552 --> 00:01:42.192
So I went home and I knew what I wanted to write, but I didn't want to tell my personal story.
00:01:42.192 --> 00:01:44.347
I didn't know the other students in the class.
00:01:44.347 --> 00:01:50.900
I wasn't ready to reveal my own situation in the class.
00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:51.781
I wasn't ready to reveal my own situation.
00:01:51.822 --> 00:01:58.242
So I went home and I made up the two characters, dr Anita Stone and her husband Daryl, and I wrote about a situation that was very similar to mine.
00:01:58.242 --> 00:02:11.093
And I wrote about the day OJ Simpson was acquitted of murder Really important time in people's lives, especially if they were in abusive relationships.
00:02:11.093 --> 00:02:13.725
So I wrote the three pages.
00:02:13.725 --> 00:02:16.231
I went back to the class and we had to read it aloud.
00:02:16.231 --> 00:02:21.049
And I read it and I got a lot of positive feedback.
00:02:21.049 --> 00:02:23.014
People were interested in the story.
00:02:23.014 --> 00:02:25.526
The instructor gave me a lot of positive feedback.
00:02:25.526 --> 00:02:28.781
So the following week we had another three pages to write.
00:02:28.781 --> 00:02:34.332
So the homework allowed me to continue on with the story.
00:02:34.332 --> 00:02:37.984
So I continued with the story and wrote three more pages.
00:02:37.984 --> 00:02:44.645
So I went to the class, I read it aloud and again I got such really positive feedback.
00:02:44.645 --> 00:02:50.001
So I had six pages done and the following week we had a different homework assignment.
00:02:50.001 --> 00:02:52.106
So I did my homework assignment.
00:02:52.448 --> 00:03:00.828
But when I went to the class and I didn't read about Dr Stone and Daryl, the students were upset.
00:03:00.828 --> 00:03:03.712
They wanted to know what was going on.
00:03:03.712 --> 00:03:13.169
And that's when I really knew I had captured their attention and they wanted to hear more and I decided that that was the book I was going to write.
00:03:13.169 --> 00:03:16.169
I took several writing classes.
00:03:16.169 --> 00:03:25.508
I kept writing three pages at a time and then I actually hired the instructor and we met on a weekly basis and I continued to write and write.
00:03:26.080 --> 00:03:30.423
And then what happened is that she said she knew a publisher who she thought would publish the book.
00:03:30.423 --> 00:03:33.330
So I contacted the publisher.
00:03:33.330 --> 00:03:38.405
She was willing to publish the book but she said it had to be 65,000 words.
00:03:38.405 --> 00:03:46.987
Mine was 40,000 words, so I had to go back and write 25,000 more words.
00:03:46.987 --> 00:04:10.111
And I've been working on this for years and the problem with that is that I really wanted to focus on the first two weeks after Dr Stone left her husband, because a woman is 70 times more likely to be murdered in the first two weeks after leaving a domestic violent relationship than any other time in that relationship.
00:04:10.111 --> 00:04:20.108
It was a staggering statistics for me, so I continued writing, and writing, and writing, and then, finally, I finished my 65,000 words.
00:04:20.168 --> 00:04:23.502
I went back to the publisher and I said I'm done, I'm done, let's go publish it.
00:04:23.502 --> 00:04:26.750
And she said Well, you know, wait, wait a minute.
00:04:26.750 --> 00:04:34.591
The first thing I want you to do is I want you to make five copies of your book and I'm going to send it out to beta readers.
00:04:34.591 --> 00:04:44.961
These are readers who give you feedback about about whether it's readable, whether it hits a nerve, whether there's something that's missing.
00:04:44.961 --> 00:04:47.711
So I did what she asked.
00:04:47.711 --> 00:04:54.449
I made five copies and we sent it up to five beta readers, hoping that it would all be good and we would just publish it.
00:04:54.449 --> 00:04:58.627
Well, what happens is you start getting feedback from each of those beta readers.
00:04:58.627 --> 00:05:12.791
They have it for about two or three weeks, depending on how long they take, and they have a big red marking pin right Marking it up and telling you we don't understand this scene or this is great and your tense is wrong here, but a lot of really positive feedback.
00:05:12.831 --> 00:05:17.466
So as I started getting the feedback, I started making the minor changes to the book.
00:05:17.466 --> 00:05:22.442
But then what you realize you get different feedback from different people.
00:05:22.442 --> 00:05:26.250
As an example beta reader one loved the ending.
00:05:26.250 --> 00:05:32.365
Beta reader two thought the ending was too abrupt, so I didn't know what to do with that.
00:05:32.365 --> 00:05:40.446
So it's just one person's opinion, right, but these are people that are trained to evaluate books.
00:05:40.446 --> 00:05:47.112
So I started making some of the changes and then I got the feedback from beta reader five, beta reader five, wasader 5.
00:05:47.132 --> 00:06:08.446
Beta Reader 5 was a man and the publisher insisted that a man read the book and give me feedback and the first thing he said in his evaluation is that the conversations did not appear to be realistic, which threw me for a loop because the conversations were almost verbatim what I had with my abuser.
00:06:08.446 --> 00:06:12.322
So I thought, wow, he doesn't get it.
00:06:12.322 --> 00:06:16.235
And then he told me that no educated woman would be in this situation.
00:06:16.235 --> 00:06:19.103
It doesn't happen to people who have an education.
00:06:19.103 --> 00:06:23.672
That was like a huge gut punch for me huge.
00:06:23.672 --> 00:06:56.240
And I just took the manuscripts, I put them on the side of my desk and I thought I don't want to do this no-transcript.
00:06:56.259 --> 00:07:04.305
Figure out what was missing, what was missing in the book that he didn't understand, and I made some conclusions.
00:07:04.305 --> 00:07:10.262
So I decided that we all have things that mold us right, that mold the people we are.
00:07:10.262 --> 00:07:13.031
We all know about nature and nurture.
00:07:13.031 --> 00:07:18.963
You know nature, that our DNA tells us our eye color and whether we're prone to diseases, et cetera.
00:07:18.963 --> 00:07:31.963
Nurture if we're nurtured by a loving, supportive family, we're different than maybe if we're raised by an alcoholic people that abuse us.
00:07:31.963 --> 00:07:34.795
So we know that there's nature and nurture.
00:07:34.795 --> 00:07:41.079
But there was something else missing in the book and I thought well, what else defines us, what else makes us who we are?
00:07:41.939 --> 00:07:50.002
And I did some research and there are something called defining moments or qualifying events in people's lives that mold us.
00:07:50.002 --> 00:08:04.644
They can be simple, simple as your only child, and you're an only child, and then eight years later your parents have twins and so that changes the dynamic of that family situation and it changes you.
00:08:04.644 --> 00:08:05.872
It changes who you are.
00:08:05.872 --> 00:08:09.632
What happens if one of the twin has a serious illness, for example?
00:08:09.632 --> 00:08:11.315
It also changes you.
00:08:11.315 --> 00:08:12.841
Maybe you're more compassionate.
00:08:12.841 --> 00:08:16.690
These qualifying events, everybody has them.
00:08:16.690 --> 00:08:25.315
They could be going to a new school, you were bullied in school, your parents put you in a new school and all of a sudden you feel heard.
00:08:25.315 --> 00:08:27.238
So that could be a qualifying event.
00:08:27.238 --> 00:08:31.713
There's just so many things, but we all are molded by nature.
00:08:31.713 --> 00:08:33.317
Nurture, qualifying events.
00:08:33.918 --> 00:08:42.495
And then there is one other big thing that I think that happens especially with um, with people, and that is a catalyst?
00:08:42.495 --> 00:08:43.817
Um, it was.
00:08:43.817 --> 00:08:44.899
Who was it?
00:08:44.899 --> 00:08:47.221
Sir Isaac Newton who wrote the?
00:08:47.221 --> 00:08:52.225
He wrote in 1687, the laws of motion.
00:08:52.225 --> 00:09:01.931
So an object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion unless acted upon by an external force.
00:09:01.931 --> 00:09:03.173
That's his exact quote.
00:09:03.173 --> 00:09:06.859
So I feel that's sort of the same way with people.
00:09:06.859 --> 00:09:21.115
We sort of go along, to go along, to go along, but then if something happens and changes us or pushes us or we then can make the changes we need to make, and that's called the catalyst.
00:09:21.115 --> 00:09:26.322
So I believe there is nature, nurture, qualifying events, and this catalyst.
00:09:26.322 --> 00:09:37.764
So I was rummaging through all that in my brain, thinking how am I going to add this to the book so that the Marvins, the beta readers, could understand?
00:09:37.764 --> 00:09:44.001
But I'd like to just take a minute and tell you how powerful these catalysts are.
00:09:44.001 --> 00:09:48.054
So this is a true story.
00:09:48.875 --> 00:09:55.335
I was in the emergency room with a broken right hand and I saw the doctor.
00:09:55.335 --> 00:09:59.604
The doctor said he had to leave and go consult with an orthopedic surgeon.
00:09:59.604 --> 00:10:04.158
So while he was gone, in walked a police officer.
00:10:04.158 --> 00:10:15.181
So I certainly hadn't called the police officer, but I quickly figured out that probably the doctor had a responsibility to call even though I hadn't told him what happened.
00:10:15.181 --> 00:10:16.791
He must have known.
00:10:16.791 --> 00:10:21.600
So the police officer asked me what happened and I lied to him.
00:10:21.600 --> 00:10:39.433
I didn't want to tell him because, unbeknownst to the police officer, my husband was in my car waiting in the parking lot with my infant daughter, because it was my right hand that was broken and I had a stick shift car so I couldn't drive.
00:10:39.433 --> 00:10:45.270
And he reluctantly agreed to take me to the hospital, but he was waiting for me.
00:10:45.270 --> 00:10:50.394
So I didn't tell the police officer what happened.
00:10:50.394 --> 00:10:55.476
And he said you know, if your husband did this it's a felony.
00:10:55.476 --> 00:10:59.960
And I didn't know that right, how would I know that?
00:10:59.960 --> 00:11:02.682
And this was not my first time in the emergency room?
00:11:02.682 --> 00:11:05.663
But no one had told me that before that before.
00:11:05.663 --> 00:11:18.751
But it still wasn't enough for me to give him the true story of what happened and what had happened.
00:11:18.751 --> 00:11:23.571
In 1994, the Violence Against Women Act made these injuries that were inflicted by my husband a felony now, where before maybe they were a misdemeanor, I don't really know.
00:11:23.571 --> 00:11:39.184
So the police officer decided he couldn't do anything to help me, so he decided to leave and as he was leaving the exam room he turned around and he said do you have children.
00:11:39.184 --> 00:11:41.616
And I said yes.
00:11:41.616 --> 00:11:47.210
And he said what example are you setting for your children?
00:11:47.210 --> 00:11:53.043
What example are you setting for your children?
00:11:53.043 --> 00:11:56.370
Just those words, what example am I setting for my children?
00:11:56.370 --> 00:12:00.230
Was the catalyst the catalyst that I've been talking about that gave me the strength that said I need to get out.
00:12:00.230 --> 00:12:04.360
I don't know how yet, but I need to get out for my children's sake.
00:12:04.360 --> 00:12:08.278
So that's a true story.
00:12:08.409 --> 00:12:12.672
Going back to the book, remember Marvin said it didn't happen to educated women.
00:12:12.672 --> 00:12:13.554
So what?
00:12:13.554 --> 00:12:22.080
I went back and I intertwined some flashbacks of what happened in Anita's life and Barbara's life and Daryl's life.
00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:27.594
That maybe helped mold them to the people they are, because we all have different learning experiences.
00:12:27.594 --> 00:12:31.139
And then I felt that I had something.
00:12:31.139 --> 00:12:47.054
I felt that even though one beta reader said they didn't like the ending and the other one said it was they loved the ending, I finally had to tell my story and I finished the book, went to the publisher and she said, yes, she would publish the story.
00:12:47.054 --> 00:13:02.187
My hope is that with adding these qualifying events and catalysts, that the Marvins of the world would better understand what happens in an abusive relationship.
00:13:02.187 --> 00:13:07.696
So maybe he could understand and maybe, just maybe, somebody who read no More.
00:13:07.696 --> 00:13:12.544
That might be their catalyst to finally figure out that they needed to get out.
00:13:12.971 --> 00:13:13.775
I finished the book.
00:13:13.775 --> 00:13:25.023
I then, when I had put the book on the side, I told you I had a bunch of cheerleaders who knew my story and kept asking me to write it.
00:13:25.023 --> 00:13:27.086
Please keep writing, please keep writing.
00:13:27.086 --> 00:13:37.394
And one of my best friends is my cheerleader, the person I called when I wanted to throw the manuscripts in the garbage, and she's an award-winning poet.
00:13:37.394 --> 00:13:40.900
And I said can you write a poem for my book?
00:13:40.900 --> 00:13:42.403
And she did.
00:13:42.403 --> 00:13:55.164
And I would like to read it because it's so significant and it says what I needed to say, but in so few words.
00:13:55.164 --> 00:13:56.934
So I'd like to read it.
00:13:56.934 --> 00:14:02.433
It was written by my friend Marilyn Dumanil and it's called Hidden Fire.
00:14:04.196 --> 00:14:14.289
Each morning, upon waking, anguish, waking with me, unshakable through the day, sharing my bed each night, my pillow wet with tears.
00:14:14.289 --> 00:14:24.124
Months grow into years, while paralyzed was I by painful words, stabbing, loss, absence, a gaping hole.
00:14:24.124 --> 00:14:32.876
One day, bolstered by a stranger's words, reminded I've a well of strength within Power to move.
00:14:32.876 --> 00:14:36.663
Move, though, dragging a weight of great magnitude.
00:14:36.663 --> 00:14:37.946
Move I must.
00:14:37.946 --> 00:14:42.700
Just a first step required, honoring the person I am.
00:14:42.700 --> 00:14:48.269
I move, trusting my inner strength, though petrified in the process.
00:14:48.269 --> 00:14:54.368
With slippery palms pounding heart, throat dry, whole body trembles.
00:14:54.368 --> 00:14:59.447
Difficult to speak the words that must be said out loud.
00:14:59.447 --> 00:15:03.804
Relief arrived as realization dawned.
00:15:03.804 --> 00:15:07.480
I'm on my journey, bound for the finish.
00:15:07.480 --> 00:15:18.548
No longer helpless but honoring fearlessly, I make the next step Now, knowing each step builds on confidence born of the first.
00:15:18.548 --> 00:15:31.571
As lava churns beneath volcanic craters then explodes in fiery spectacle, within each of us, spectacular strength awaits, burning to be tapped.
00:15:32.375 --> 00:15:33.177
I love that poem.
00:15:33.177 --> 00:15:37.126
When I went to start reading your book and I opened it to that page.
00:15:37.126 --> 00:15:50.395
It hit at such a perfect time for me with things that I have going on in my life, and when I read that I was like, oh, I am so excited to dive into this book, Thank you that.
00:15:50.395 --> 00:15:55.065
She really did nail every part of what you go through.
00:15:55.065 --> 00:16:18.400
I wanted to mention, when you were giving the backgrounds of the characters, what I really liked about it is there was a similarity to the three individuals and their backgrounds not identical backgrounds, but a similarity and I think that was so important because it doesn't give an excuse as to why you know the abuser turned out the way he did.
00:16:18.400 --> 00:16:34.528
Because, well, he had this background, because you have these other two characters who have similar things happen, and so I think that is really important to understand that just because you have a bad background doesn't give you this reason that you get to be a bad person.
00:16:35.554 --> 00:16:35.916
Thank you.
00:16:35.916 --> 00:16:40.445
Thank you, that was on purpose too, so I'm glad you got it.
00:16:43.014 --> 00:16:53.789
Yeah, yeah, I was like, wow, this is really cool because they end up dealing with their traumas completely different and growing into completely different people.
00:16:54.532 --> 00:17:00.355
And the other thing I wanted to mention is when you were saying the catalyst, it kind of pushes you into a different pathway.
00:17:00.355 --> 00:17:30.377
I think that is something that's really interesting too, because with therapy you have I don't know if you've heard of EMDR, but it's where they try to re it's like your brain diverts itself and it changes this path because you've had this traumatic experience and so then now you're going on living your life and then you have these triggers and you're not really understanding why something is triggering you in a way, because your brain has created this bypass to not really deal with it.
00:17:30.377 --> 00:17:37.569
And EMDR is a way to sort of try to reconnect some of those pathways.
00:17:37.569 --> 00:17:43.095
So I thought that was really interesting too, how you were mentioning getting pushed off your path.
00:17:43.095 --> 00:18:09.931
Thank you really going to do, and I know that is a big concern and I think that is a legitimate concern for a lot of victims as to.
00:18:09.931 --> 00:18:13.053
Well, I get this restraining order, then what?
00:18:13.836 --> 00:18:14.277
Right, right.
00:18:14.277 --> 00:18:20.415
And sometimes what I've read is it just irritates them so much more that you're in more danger.
00:18:20.415 --> 00:18:34.066
So it's a fine balance and I think every person has to figure out what's best and what's right for them, because what might really piss somebody off and then you're in more danger.
00:18:34.066 --> 00:18:35.169
You don't want to do that.
00:18:35.169 --> 00:18:42.022
I even said to the police officer well, sure, you could arrest him, but what happens when he gets out of custody?
00:18:42.022 --> 00:18:44.102
That's when it's going to be scary.
00:18:45.255 --> 00:19:05.261
Yes, and I actually I just did an episode where and this is not normal, but an episode where the wife had called in a domestic violence complaint against her husband he was arrested and he was already out on bond for something else and she thought she had some time, that he wouldn't get released right away.
00:19:05.261 --> 00:19:07.185
But he did.
00:19:07.185 --> 00:19:11.904
He got released right away and it unfortunately ended up in her death.
00:19:11.904 --> 00:19:20.125
So there are I know it's horrifying and there are those true stories.
00:19:20.125 --> 00:19:26.800
And that's not to say that people should stay in their abusive relationships but know what kind of a situation you're in and what is the safest route and safest path to take.
00:19:26.800 --> 00:19:30.618
It's very important people should stay in their abusive relationships but know what kind of a situation you're in and what is the safest route and safest path to take.
00:19:30.618 --> 00:19:39.776
It's very important and I love how you throw that statistic in there too, about the most dangerous time of the relationship is when you're leaving and when you've left.
00:19:39.776 --> 00:19:43.441
And I didn't realize that actual statistic.
00:19:43.441 --> 00:19:45.664
That's an insane statistic.
00:19:45.664 --> 00:19:47.646
That's an insane statistic.
00:19:47.666 --> 00:19:49.630
It's insane, yeah, and it's very, very scary.
00:19:49.630 --> 00:20:06.209
And we that are in domestic violence relationships we know it's a scary time, but I didn't realize that it's the most scary time 70 times more likely to be murdered in those two weeks than any other time in the relationship.
00:20:07.858 --> 00:20:08.561
And it's murdered.
00:20:08.561 --> 00:20:20.229
It's not just not attacked, it's murdered, yeah, yeah, and that's and that I do try to stress as often as I can is, if you were planning to leave, do it discreetly.
00:20:20.229 --> 00:20:22.521
So I also want to ask.
00:20:22.521 --> 00:20:28.868
So no more is out and it's published, and and it has been yes, but if someone were to want to get the book.
00:20:28.868 --> 00:20:29.289
Where can they get?
00:20:29.289 --> 00:20:31.414
So no More is out and it's published and it has been.
00:20:32.474 --> 00:20:33.964
But if someone were to want to get the book, where can they get it?
00:20:33.964 --> 00:20:39.306
They can get it on Amazon or they can contact me directly and I would be happy to send them an autographed copy if that's what they want.
00:20:39.306 --> 00:20:40.540
But you can get it on Amazon.
00:20:40.996 --> 00:20:44.694
I wanted to bring up a few points I thought of as I was editing this episode.
00:20:44.694 --> 00:20:59.203
I know Antoinette and I were discussing a fictional book, but one thing that stood out to me in this conversation was how the male beta reader, marvin, felt the story was unbelievable because an educated woman would never find herself in that situation.
00:20:59.203 --> 00:21:05.644
Well, I consider myself to be an educated woman and I am a domestic violence survivor.
00:21:05.644 --> 00:21:11.803
I have met and spoken with many other educated women who are survivors as well Men too.
00:21:11.803 --> 00:21:16.277
I would like to clarify that I'm using the term educated flippantly.
00:21:16.277 --> 00:21:25.882
As we all know, education comes in many forms, but it appears Marvin was perhaps using the degree of formal education to equate intelligence.
00:21:25.882 --> 00:21:41.875
Anyway, I realize society has come a long way over the last few years and this may not be as common of a belief now, but this statement is a reminder of what misconceptions and judgments there are still out there regarding domestic violence, victims and survivors.
00:21:41.875 --> 00:21:43.837
I mention this all the time, but domestic violence has no boundaries.
00:21:43.837 --> 00:21:47.842
I mention this all the time, but domestic violence has no boundaries.
00:21:47.842 --> 00:21:54.989
Any person, regardless of gender, socioeconomic status, level of formal education etc.
00:21:54.989 --> 00:21:56.431
Can be a victim.
00:22:02.515 --> 00:22:08.271
Marvin also had the comment regarding the conversations in the book and how they didn't seem realistic.
00:22:08.271 --> 00:22:09.394
I kind of can understand this one.
00:22:09.394 --> 00:22:12.061
After all, how many of us questioned our reality when we were living the nightmare?
00:22:12.061 --> 00:22:18.579
How many of us look back on our experience and find it hard to fathom those things were actually said or done?
00:22:18.579 --> 00:22:24.499
It's hard to believe, because humans should not treat other humans that way.
00:22:24.499 --> 00:22:29.792
This all boils down to exactly what one of Antoinette's goals was.
00:22:29.792 --> 00:22:30.515
In writing.
00:22:30.515 --> 00:22:31.376
No More.
00:22:31.376 --> 00:22:40.663
We need to speak up, talk about our domestic violence realities more and make sure our voices continue to be heard.
00:22:41.884 --> 00:22:46.862
I would like to thank Antoinette for taking the time to join me today and thank you for listening.
00:22:46.862 --> 00:22:52.481
The links to Antoinette's bio and how to buy her book are found in the show notes.
00:22:52.481 --> 00:22:57.798
I will be back next week with Antoinette as she reads some of her book.
00:22:57.798 --> 00:23:00.002
No More Until then.
00:23:00.002 --> 00:23:07.803
Stay strong and wherever you are in your journey, always remember you are not alone.
00:23:07.803 --> 00:23:15.583
Find more information, register as a guest or leave a review by going to the website onein3podcastcom.
00:23:15.583 --> 00:23:20.182
That's the number one I-N the number three podcastcom.
00:23:20.182 --> 00:23:26.561
Follow One in Three on Instagram, facebook and Twitter at One in Three Podcast To help me out.
00:23:26.561 --> 00:23:29.448
Please remember to rate, review and subscribe.
00:23:29.448 --> 00:23:35.498
1in3 is a .5 Pinoy production Music written and performed by Tim Crow.
00:23:35.498 --> 00:23:35.538
©.
00:23:35.538 --> 00:23:46.924
Transcript Emily Beynon.
00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:25.804
00:00:25.804 --> 00:00:27.167
00:00:27.167 --> 00:00:30.582
00:00:30.582 --> 00:00:32.908
00:00:32.908 --> 00:00:41.984
00:00:41.984 --> 00:00:53.152
00:00:53.152 --> 00:01:02.481
00:01:02.481 --> 00:01:04.884
00:01:04.884 --> 00:01:09.311
00:01:09.311 --> 00:01:11.314
00:01:11.314 --> 00:01:15.228
00:01:15.448 --> 00:01:21.046
00:01:21.046 --> 00:01:23.131
00:01:23.131 --> 00:01:31.013
00:01:31.013 --> 00:01:36.552
00:01:36.552 --> 00:01:42.192
00:01:42.192 --> 00:01:44.347
00:01:44.347 --> 00:01:50.900
00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:51.781
00:01:51.822 --> 00:01:58.242
00:01:58.242 --> 00:02:11.093
00:02:11.093 --> 00:02:13.725
00:02:13.725 --> 00:02:16.231
00:02:16.231 --> 00:02:21.049
00:02:21.049 --> 00:02:23.014
00:02:23.014 --> 00:02:25.526
00:02:25.526 --> 00:02:28.781
00:02:28.781 --> 00:02:34.332
00:02:34.332 --> 00:02:37.984
00:02:37.984 --> 00:02:44.645
00:02:44.645 --> 00:02:50.001
00:02:50.001 --> 00:02:52.106
00:02:52.448 --> 00:03:00.828
00:03:00.828 --> 00:03:03.712
00:03:03.712 --> 00:03:13.169
00:03:13.169 --> 00:03:16.169
00:03:16.169 --> 00:03:25.508
00:03:26.080 --> 00:03:30.423
00:03:30.423 --> 00:03:33.330
00:03:33.330 --> 00:03:38.405
00:03:38.405 --> 00:03:46.987
00:03:46.987 --> 00:04:10.111
00:04:10.111 --> 00:04:20.108
00:04:20.168 --> 00:04:23.502
00:04:23.502 --> 00:04:26.750
00:04:26.750 --> 00:04:34.591
00:04:34.591 --> 00:04:44.961
00:04:44.961 --> 00:04:47.711
00:04:47.711 --> 00:04:54.449
00:04:54.449 --> 00:04:58.627
00:04:58.627 --> 00:05:12.791
00:05:12.831 --> 00:05:17.466
00:05:17.466 --> 00:05:22.442
00:05:22.442 --> 00:05:26.250
00:05:26.250 --> 00:05:32.365
00:05:32.365 --> 00:05:40.446
00:05:40.446 --> 00:05:47.112
00:05:47.132 --> 00:06:08.446
00:06:08.446 --> 00:06:12.322
00:06:12.322 --> 00:06:16.235
00:06:16.235 --> 00:06:19.103
00:06:19.103 --> 00:06:23.672
00:06:23.672 --> 00:06:56.240
00:06:56.259 --> 00:07:04.305
00:07:04.305 --> 00:07:10.262
00:07:10.262 --> 00:07:13.031
00:07:13.031 --> 00:07:18.963
00:07:18.963 --> 00:07:31.963
00:07:31.963 --> 00:07:34.795
00:07:34.795 --> 00:07:41.079
00:07:41.939 --> 00:07:50.002
00:07:50.002 --> 00:08:04.644
00:08:04.644 --> 00:08:05.872
00:08:05.872 --> 00:08:09.632
00:08:09.632 --> 00:08:11.315
00:08:11.315 --> 00:08:12.841
00:08:12.841 --> 00:08:16.690
00:08:16.690 --> 00:08:25.315
00:08:25.315 --> 00:08:27.238
00:08:27.238 --> 00:08:31.713
00:08:31.713 --> 00:08:33.317
00:08:33.918 --> 00:08:42.495
00:08:42.495 --> 00:08:43.817
00:08:43.817 --> 00:08:44.899
00:08:44.899 --> 00:08:47.221
00:08:47.221 --> 00:08:52.225
00:08:52.225 --> 00:09:01.931
00:09:01.931 --> 00:09:03.173
00:09:03.173 --> 00:09:06.859
00:09:06.859 --> 00:09:21.115
00:09:21.115 --> 00:09:26.322
00:09:26.322 --> 00:09:37.764
00:09:37.764 --> 00:09:44.001
00:09:44.001 --> 00:09:48.054
00:09:48.875 --> 00:09:55.335
00:09:55.335 --> 00:09:59.604
00:09:59.604 --> 00:10:04.158
00:10:04.158 --> 00:10:15.181
00:10:15.181 --> 00:10:16.791
00:10:16.791 --> 00:10:21.600
00:10:21.600 --> 00:10:39.433
00:10:39.433 --> 00:10:45.270
00:10:45.270 --> 00:10:50.394
00:10:50.394 --> 00:10:55.476
00:10:55.476 --> 00:10:59.960
00:10:59.960 --> 00:11:02.682
00:11:02.682 --> 00:11:05.663
00:11:05.663 --> 00:11:18.751
00:11:18.751 --> 00:11:23.571
00:11:23.571 --> 00:11:39.184
00:11:39.184 --> 00:11:41.616
00:11:41.616 --> 00:11:47.210
00:11:47.210 --> 00:11:53.043
00:11:53.043 --> 00:11:56.370
00:11:56.370 --> 00:12:00.230
00:12:00.230 --> 00:12:04.360
00:12:04.360 --> 00:12:08.278
00:12:08.409 --> 00:12:12.672
00:12:12.672 --> 00:12:13.554
00:12:13.554 --> 00:12:22.080
00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:27.594
00:12:27.594 --> 00:12:31.139
00:12:31.139 --> 00:12:47.054
00:12:47.054 --> 00:13:02.187
00:13:02.187 --> 00:13:07.696
00:13:07.696 --> 00:13:12.544
00:13:12.971 --> 00:13:13.775
00:13:13.775 --> 00:13:25.023
00:13:25.023 --> 00:13:27.086
00:13:27.086 --> 00:13:37.394
00:13:37.394 --> 00:13:40.900
00:13:40.900 --> 00:13:42.403
00:13:42.403 --> 00:13:55.164
00:13:55.164 --> 00:13:56.934
00:13:56.934 --> 00:14:02.433
00:14:04.196 --> 00:14:14.289
00:14:14.289 --> 00:14:24.124
00:14:24.124 --> 00:14:32.876
00:14:32.876 --> 00:14:36.663
00:14:36.663 --> 00:14:37.946
00:14:37.946 --> 00:14:42.700
00:14:42.700 --> 00:14:48.269
00:14:48.269 --> 00:14:54.368
00:14:54.368 --> 00:14:59.447
00:14:59.447 --> 00:15:03.804
00:15:03.804 --> 00:15:07.480
00:15:07.480 --> 00:15:18.548
00:15:18.548 --> 00:15:31.571
00:15:32.375 --> 00:15:33.177
00:15:33.177 --> 00:15:37.126
00:15:37.126 --> 00:15:50.395
00:15:50.395 --> 00:15:55.065
00:15:55.065 --> 00:16:18.400
00:16:18.400 --> 00:16:34.528
00:16:35.554 --> 00:16:35.916
00:16:35.916 --> 00:16:40.445
00:16:43.014 --> 00:16:53.789
00:16:54.532 --> 00:17:00.355
00:17:00.355 --> 00:17:30.377
00:17:30.377 --> 00:17:37.569
00:17:37.569 --> 00:17:43.095
00:17:43.095 --> 00:18:09.931
00:18:09.931 --> 00:18:13.053
00:18:13.836 --> 00:18:14.277
00:18:14.277 --> 00:18:20.415
00:18:20.415 --> 00:18:34.066
00:18:34.066 --> 00:18:35.169
00:18:35.169 --> 00:18:42.022
00:18:42.022 --> 00:18:44.102
00:18:45.255 --> 00:19:05.261
00:19:05.261 --> 00:19:07.185
00:19:07.185 --> 00:19:11.904
00:19:11.904 --> 00:19:20.125
00:19:20.125 --> 00:19:26.800
00:19:26.800 --> 00:19:30.618
00:19:30.618 --> 00:19:39.776
00:19:39.776 --> 00:19:43.441
00:19:43.441 --> 00:19:45.664
00:19:45.664 --> 00:19:47.646
00:19:47.666 --> 00:19:49.630
00:19:49.630 --> 00:20:06.209
00:20:07.858 --> 00:20:08.561
00:20:08.561 --> 00:20:20.229
00:20:20.229 --> 00:20:22.521
00:20:22.521 --> 00:20:28.868
00:20:28.868 --> 00:20:29.289
00:20:29.289 --> 00:20:31.414
00:20:32.474 --> 00:20:33.964
00:20:33.964 --> 00:20:39.306
00:20:39.306 --> 00:20:40.540
00:20:40.996 --> 00:20:44.694
00:20:44.694 --> 00:20:59.203
00:20:59.203 --> 00:21:05.644
00:21:05.644 --> 00:21:11.803
00:21:11.803 --> 00:21:16.277
00:21:16.277 --> 00:21:25.882
00:21:25.882 --> 00:21:41.875
00:21:41.875 --> 00:21:43.837
00:21:43.837 --> 00:21:47.842
00:21:47.842 --> 00:21:54.989
00:21:54.989 --> 00:21:56.431
00:22:02.515 --> 00:22:08.271
00:22:08.271 --> 00:22:09.394
00:22:09.394 --> 00:22:12.061
00:22:12.061 --> 00:22:18.579
00:22:18.579 --> 00:22:24.499
00:22:24.499 --> 00:22:29.792
00:22:29.792 --> 00:22:30.515
00:22:30.515 --> 00:22:31.376
00:22:31.376 --> 00:22:40.663
00:22:41.884 --> 00:22:46.862
00:22:46.862 --> 00:22:52.481
00:22:52.481 --> 00:22:57.798
00:22:57.798 --> 00:23:00.002
00:23:00.002 --> 00:23:07.803
00:23:07.803 --> 00:23:15.583
00:23:15.583 --> 00:23:20.182
00:23:20.182 --> 00:23:26.561
00:23:26.561 --> 00:23:29.448
00:23:29.448 --> 00:23:35.498
00:23:35.498 --> 00:23:35.538
00:23:35.538 --> 00:23:46.924
Antoinette Foxworthy is an award-winning author and speaker bringing awareness and conversation to the issue of domestic violence both in the U.S. and Canada. She knows, first hand, why those being abused don’t “just leave”. She knows the fear, the embarrassment, and the upheaval of starting a new life.
Her debut novel, No More, started as a three-page homework assignment.
Antoinette is also the author of Caterpillar, Rabbit and Fox, a heartwarming and educational story about a wise caterpillar, a friendly rabbit and a thankful fox who meet in a garden.
