Episodes

A man reports sexual assault and is laughed at. Sadly, that experience is far more common than many people realize. This week, Ingrid sits down with Liana Lucine, former Metropolitan Police officer, trainer, and author of Men Ignored, for an important conversation about the realities male survivors face when they experience sexual assault, sexual harassment, domestic violence, and coercive control. Together they explore why so many men never disclose abuse, how harmful stereotypes prevent sur...

Leaving an abusive relationship is rarely the end of the story. In Part 2 of Luna's powerful survivor story, she shares how the abuse escalated from coercive control to strangulation, weapon threats, and constant intimidation. What began as controlling behavior during a teenage relationship became life-threatening violence that affected every aspect of her life. Luna opens up about discovering she was pregnant at just 16 years old and facing accusations instead of support. She describes being...

The most dangerous relationships rarely begin with obvious abuse. This week on 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by domestic violence survivor Luna, who shares how a relationship that began when she was just 16 slowly transformed from what seemed like a typical teenage romance into coercive control, isolation, and escalating abuse. What started with jealousy over a Facebook post became constant accusations, monitoring, and demands to prove her loyalty. Luna describes how "protection" became control, w...

Strangulation doesn't have to leave visible bruises to cause life-altering injuries—or even death. In Episode 122 of 1 in 3, Ingrid Dutton sits down with April Flores-Brayton, Director of Community-Based Services at WINGS, Illinois' largest domestic violence agency, to discuss the often-overlooked connection between strangulation, traumatic brain injury (TBI), and intimate partner violence. April explains how WINGS' hospital-based advocacy program helps survivors access support during one of ...

Kids don't have to be physically abused to be deeply affected by domestic violence. When children grow up surrounded by fear, conflict, manipulation, or emotional instability, the trauma often follows them long into adulthood. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with executive leader, advocate, and author Tricia Gray to explore the lasting impact domestic violence has on children. Drawing from both professional insight and personal experience, Tricia explains how childhood...

Some stories don't just break your heart—they remind you that healing is possible. In this powerful episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor, entrepreneur, author, and advocate Rita Cartwright to discuss how faith helped her navigate domestic abuse, infidelity, profound grief, and unimaginable loss. Rita shares her personal journey of rebuilding her life, the inspiration behind her book How To Heal Your Broken Heart, and why healing isn't a destination—it's a daily practi...

When parents age, society often assumes adult children should automatically step in and provide care. But what happens when the parent needing help is also the person who caused years of emotional harm, manipulation, or trauma? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with elder care educator and advocate Amy Friesen to unpack the complicated reality of parental estrangement, caregiving boundaries, and healing from toxic family dynamics. Amy shares both professional insight and l...

Trafficking is not always a stranger in a parking lot or a dramatic abduction story. Sometimes it looks like coercive control inside a relationship, grooming by an older partner, or manipulation powered by fear, shame, and trauma bonds. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with former FBI agent and retired SWAT operator Eric Robinson to unpack what sex trafficking actually looks like under federal law—and why so many victims remain hidden in plain sight. Eric shares insights from years i...

Love shouldn’t feel like a test you keep failing — but coercive control often starts quietly, gradually, and disguised as romance. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Jas Rawlinson, coercive control educator, domestic violence awareness advocate, and creator of Red Flags 101, for a practical and eye-opening conversation about the relationship warning signs people are taught to ignore. Together, they unpack: • coercive control and emotional abuse • love bombing and gaslight...

A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation. What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex escalated—not just emotionally, but legally. Through restraining order manipulation, altered documen...

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some. Support the show If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788. Contact 1 in 3: Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/ Thank you for listening! Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke Musi...

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk. We cover: What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary order...

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court. In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast , Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation. Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including: Custody battles shaped by false narratives Protective par...

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy. Discussi...

Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe. Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbest...

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals. Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protecti...

What if your body has been guiding you all along? In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear. Tara shares her personal journey of carrying guilt and shame while helping others heal—and how the loss of her sister became...

Power doesn’t always leave a bruise. In Episode 109 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, negotiation professor and relationship scientist Dr. Merideth Thompson breaks down the subtle but devastating patterns of emotional abuse, financial control, and gaslighting — and how they slowly erode self-trust. We explore: • Early signs of emotional control • How gaslighting creates chronic self-doubt • The hidden impact of financial abuse • Why accountability is a clear marker of a safe partner • Trauma-aware docum...

Reproductive coercion isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s abuse. In this episode of 1 in 3, Lynn joins Ingrid to break down how pregnancy pressure, sabotaged birth control, stealthing, and financial control strip away autonomy long before survivors recognize what’s happening. We move beyond headlines to define reproductive coercion in real life: Stealthing and condom removal without consent Birth control sabotage Withholding money for abortion or prenatal care Guilt disguised as romance Pregnancy us...

A life can begin in chaos and still choose compassion. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid sits down with Malisa to explore healing complex trauma shaped by childhood neglect, addiction, and domestic violence. Together, they unpack trauma not as a single event, but as years without safety—and why healing often begins with who showed up when it hurt. Malisa shares how perfectionism, achievement, and “being the golden child” became survival strategies for many Gen X and elder millennials, ...

What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it? In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold. Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker room culture, coercive language, and exhaustion that blurs consent. From a stall where misogyny is p...

What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter? In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse. Together, the discussion explores how abuse escal...

One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge? In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and inside institutions meant to protect. We break down the dangerous overlap between domestic violence, se...

When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3 , Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave. Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolation, and intimidation evolve quietly, long before the public ever notices. We explore the legal concep...